Ms. De Luca
When and How did you start out as a Domme and at what age did you first realize you were dominant?
I became a domme in 2009. I had just lost my job and my roommate was dating a pro domme. I got curious and answered a Craigslist ad for a dungeon. I was always a dominant person and always idolized dominant women in movies and tv. There wasn’t a time when it ever “occurred” to me. It was just an understood part of who I am.
How does having both the power and control over subs make you feel? Do you get any sexual pleasure from it?
I love it. The power is what turns me on.
Do you believe women will and should rule the world and enslave men? What should/will happen to the men when/if this happens? Should they be locked in chastity?
Of course I do. This is exactly the world I have created on my http://FascistFemDom.com. I’ve created The Nation of Ms. De Luca, or The Nation for short. All the men are kept as slaves, livestock, used for entertainment and completely enslaved to meet our every need.
What are some of your favorite kinks? What are your HARD limits? Are there any kinks you have yet to try that you still want to some day?
Some of my favorite kinks are discipline, foot domination and degradation. My hard limits are bottoming in anyway, adbl/mommy play/age play, sissy play, tickling and wrestling. No kink shaming, they just don’t interest me.
What do you enjoy about discipline and how much pain do you enjoy inflicting?
I love the strict nature of it all. The routine, the rules. It’s hot. I also enjoy that it’s a simple act with so much impact. It breaks the ego and creates a whole new attitude so easily. I want to make my bottoms cry. I want their butts to be sore for days.
What are your favorite tools to use for impact play?
Canes. I LOVE canes. I love to use them all over the body, for a slow burn and for a good, heavy judicial caning.
What type of sub do you prefer? What do you look for in a potential sub? Are you accepting any new subs currently?
I like all kinds. They each have their own purpose. I like the variety of it. An ability to follow instructions is very important to me. That is much harder to find these days than you would think. I get tons of emails that can’t even follow the instructions on my site. I’m always open to meeting new subs. I love expanding my stable.
Why do you think guys are so stupid and can’t follow directions?
Robin Williams once said “God gave man both a brain and a penis, but only enough blood to run one at a time.” I fully believe this. When they see my site, the blood rushes from the brain and critical thinking goes out the window.
Where is your favorite place to do sessions or travel in general?
I love NYC. It’s my home, it’s always been my home and I have a great variety of dungeons to play in here. It will always be my favorite place to session. Travel in general, I love Italy. Everywhere I’ve been in the country has been absolutely amazing.
What type of Domme would you say you are? Strict, tough, ruthless? OR Sensual, caring, gentle? Or would you say you are a mix of all of them and more?
I’m strict and sensual. I like to use the things you enjoy against you. I also demand you follow every rule and instruction. I should never have to tell you twice.
Do you enjoy getting inside mens heads and reprogramming them or manipulating them? How do you do it?
I love it. I take a military approach. I break them down completely and rebuild them to my liking.
What are your thoughts on pegging?
The male g-spot is in the ass for a reason. It needs to be made use of.
What do you enjoy about pegging a sub?
The fact that I have total control over their pleasure.
What’s the biggest strap you’ve used on a sub and how rough do you like to peg?
For that kind of information, the subs are going to have to call me on NIteFlirt.
If there was a movie made about you was would it be called?
I already made that move. It’s called “Full Metal Mistress”
If you could change one thing about the lifestyle, what would it be and why? Why do you think this lifestyle is so looked down upon and feared?
If there was one thing I could change, I would remove the stigma against those of us who also partake professionally. We should be the more open-minded and accepting people. Judging someone based on if they also monetize their interests isn’t helpful to anyone. Why the lifestyle is so looked down on is the same issue as most of the world, puritanical beliefs that there is one correct way to exist and if you exist in any other way you are wrong and must be shunned.
What are your thoughts on what I do in regards to interviewing you beautiful Dommes and sharing them with the world and other subs/Dommes?
A lot of love to be interviewed. Our interviews (so long as they are not edited) are resources for subs to learn more about us when they are looking for the right dominant.
Do you think it sheds light on this lifestyle and shows that you Domme‘s are people to and not 24/7 kink machines?
I do. It’s a good way for us to show personality outside of our scenes.
Are there any Dommes that inspire you or that you look up to? Who would you say or whose style got you interested in the lifestyle in the beginning?
There are many Dommes who inspire me. The mainstays throughout my career who have guided me and taught me so much are Chicago Mistress Simone, Queen Ariana Chevalier and Mistress Tara Indiana. I didn’t have any one person whose style got me into the lifestyle. It was something that I had been curious about for a long time and when I met someone who actually did it, i decided to look into it myself.
What do you feel it is about the female body that brings men to their knees and ultimately want to submit and give everything to their Domme? What part of your body do you find makes men weak for you?
I wouldn’t say there is any one part or thing about our bodies. There are so many different things to appreciate and every sub has their own reason to appreciate each one. I feel it is my voice and my words that makes men the weakest for me.
What makes you stand out from other Dommes?
I think that we all offer unique experiences. I might be visually lost in a sea of dark haired, busty dommes who love discipline but once you speak to me, you know that the experience is different.
What motivates you to continue being a Domme each day? What are your goals in this lifestyle and in life in general? Where do you see yourself in 5, 10 years? Do you have plans to continue being a Domme?
I love what I do. It’s fun, interesting. lucrative and fits my lifestyle. It’s the perfect career path for me. My goal is to keep getting up every day and dominating willing submissive people. I hope I can always get paid for it too. I plan to keep growing my online business and getting back to touring more, over the next few years. In 10 years I hope I am still enjoying it as much as I have the last 10 years. I plan to do this until I’m ready to retire to a chill European country where I’ll hang out in parks or plazas and crochet until the end of my days.
What are your thoughts on the following? dommewrecking, home wrecking, total financial ruination, clip sites and payment method companies cracking down and either shutting down or banning SWer accounts and also the words that can be said in clips…What should be done about it, if anything?
I don’t believe in wrecking things b/c it involves a non-consenting party. If I wreck your relationship, it is b/c the other party consents to us playing and I’ve convinced them they need to do what will make them happy and they choose to leave you. Ruination is fine as long as it only affects the person asking for it. If you understand and consent to that level of play, I’m not kink shaming. You can come back from that if you change in the future. All this censorship is bull shit. Our livelihoods are being controlled by payment processors who believe in fucked up puritanical, moral bull shit. It does far more harm than good. education and reducing stigma will keep people a lot safer than just saying they cant access this “smut”
What should newbie subs do research on BEFORE getting into this lifestyle OR contacting a Domme? Also, what would your advice be to a newbie Domme wanting to get into this lifestyle?
Newbie subs should look for people who put consent first and are willing to talk to their subs outside of a dynamic to negotiate. If someone needs you to immediately be in dynamic, they are for experienced players. You need to know what dynamic you want/ need before entering one. Newbie dommes should look for experienced dommes who offer classes and/or mentorship. Having a mentor is invaluable. If that is out of reach for you, many of us offer one-off or series of classes that can really help you get an understanding of your skills. I also recommend finding a local house and taking a few shifts there to get your feet wet. Only stay there for a few months though. It’s a great way to see and experience a lot quickly b/c there are so many different dommes and clients. Then get out b/c it will also stunt your career and money making possibilities very quickly.
Do you believe in safe words and performing aftercare? What is your view on collaring?
I think safewords are very important, especially when you are new or new to a relationship. I don’t use them in most of my scenes and I hardly use them but I let subs know that a discussion can be had if things are going too far. I do like a word for a hard stop though. Especially if I know the sub well. Aftercare is also important. I don’t generally make a big show of doing specific aftercare activities but it is built into the way I end my scenes. Collaring is something I very rarely do. It takes a long time to earn that kind of trust and build that level of a relationship. few make it.
What would you like to say to the viewers of your interview?
I’d like to say thanks to the viewers for wanting to know what I have to say. they can learn more about, send me tributes and book sessions on my website, https://nydominatrix.com/
I would like to Thank Ms. De Luca for taking the time out of Her busy life to let me interview Her. I hope you check this lovely lady out and show Her some love…